Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Paris NOT an influence on girls?


Or at least not as strong an influence as we've assumed? Saw this post on another women's forum I subscribe to. Could we be overstating the influence Paris, Lindsey et. al. have on young women?

"Paris. Can we please unofficially put a ban on mentioning that name or anything to do with that name unless it is in reference to the French City. I've been asking young teens and tweens their opinion and none of them like her. Seems to me that it is the adults perpetuating the image. DON'T buy the gossip mags. I can truly say that I have bought only one of these magazines in the past 10 years."

Can we go AROUND Paris or do we have to go through her?

Monday, July 30, 2007

my friend Becky's theory


My good friend Becky Thyre emailed me this weekend a little epiphany she had and I thought it would make a cool blog topic....

Becky said:

"I just had an idea that explains the whole
male/female sexual thing. Didn't I read somewhere
that clitorises are just like penises, but they're
wound into the body (which explains the G-spot, it's
stimulating a part of the penis/clitoris that is near
the inside of the vaginal wall)?

So, the whole penis-envy thing is really us knowing
what it's like to have a penis, but ours is a little
harder to get to, just like adults reminisce about
childhood and how direct and simple it was.

And THAT'S why I think women can know what turns men
on and focus on it because we're really turning on our
own original penises that are now a little numbed by
their distance from the air so that we have more
motivation to think about things."

thoughts, ya'll? I have my own theories about why arousing and satisfying male sexual pleasure seems to take a precedence in our culture... would love to hear yours...

Friday, July 27, 2007

LANGUAGE, language!


Tracy McMillain is so brilliant I'm cutting and pasting her words here so maybe we can get some chicks a'talking....

A few of the Object-starting ladies have been having conversations in emails... if we were to rebrand feminism, what would it look like? I think the reason OBJECT happened upon the idea of a somewhat sexuality-focussed conversation is because that's always where feminism seems to slow down-- this side-choosing business about the young n the old, the Paris n the not, the 20 vs. 40, the OBJECT vs. NOW...

She wrote so eloquently about some stuff we might wish to mix into the language of this site... we'd love your feedback, plus your feedbackof the language used anywhere else on tis siteor on myspace.... hence the title, FEEDBACK!

Tracy's brilliant lovely words:

"I'd like to see OBJECT and THE CONVERSATION as a place where we can come together as women - with any set of political beliefs, backgrounds, skin colors, etc. - and connect in a way that affirms the particular power of being female. To me that power is more internal
than external, it is non-competitive, non-hierarchical, cooperative, personal, intimate, truthful, heart-centered, and spiritual - based more on the unseen than the seen.

What the world needs now is women grounded in their own feminine wisdom and values. To me, if women couldn't be cajoled, seduced, talked out, lured out, or put out of their inner truth, you wouldn't HAVE 'Girls Gone Wild', the rape of planet, unwinnable wars or painfully-mothered boys turning into fearful and misogynistic men.

I'm less in interested in becoming a political group per se... than a personal group which supports women in becoming more of who they really are - without all the cultural, racial, economic, and political static. This will necessarily lead to political change.

There are many groups already that focus on specific political issues. And unless we all have exactly the same politics, (or nearly exactly), I think a political focus ultimately excludes more than it includes.

What I really want to be a part of is a community of women who gather for the purpose of transforming what it means to be feminist: From
(blank) to (blank). And each woman gets to fill in the blanks for
herself.

I'd hate to see Republican women, for instance, or women who don't
believe in abortion feel like OBJECT is "not for them", because we've
decided to take an official stand on this or that issue. Every town in
America would benefit from an OBJECT group!!

What would really blow people's minds and move this whole country
forward, is if we could start a movement dedicated to finding and
holding unity among all women. A loose, non-political organization of
this kind would foment all kinds of art, business, scholarship, media,
friendship, parenting, creativity, music... sky's the limit.

Thursday, July 26, 2007

The "Captivity" Conversation Continues

One of our favorite feminist thinkers, Amelia G of BlueBlood.net, recently weighed in on the "Captivity" billboard controversy, and some of what she says suprised us (plus, Girl clearly did her research). Check it out and let us know what you think. http://www.blueblood.net/2007/07/captivitycontroversy/

20 vs. 40


No, not the Mark Phillipoussis reality catastrophe, but the question about the differences between women in their twenties and women in their forties regarding what feminism means to us. Is it just a question of Sexy, yes, but How Sexy?! Or is it about more? Why are so many women who benefited from the feminist movement of the 70's looking at the young women now and (sometimes) say WTF? So tell us... young chicks... what are we missing?

Monday, July 23, 2007

Lady Party Hangover

Quite the opposite of the traditional hangover that leaves of-age girls feeling not-so-hot, Lady Party Hangover consists of delving into diverse topics inspired by the evening's events.


I was so excited to see the turnout for the event - a diverse group of women and girls eager to hear and talk about issues most important to them through literature, comedy, and song. I met so many new people - women and girls I hope will participate in upcoming Conversations - which really gave me hope that we can all identify and celebrate our feminist values, even if we don't see ourselves necessarily as activists. Women all over the world may not have the ability - for whatever reason - to dedicate hours of their time to public displays of opinion, but we can all create lives that celebrate what we view as beautifully woman.


Anyone else feel that way?



Lindsey

Friday, July 6, 2007



Join us at The Echoplex on Tuesday, July 17 at 8 pm for LADY PARTY!!!


When all your friends are talking about it, you'll be in the know...